Originally posted on the Women in Astronomy Blog:
I've lost track of the number of times I've experienced the following scenarios:
1) During a heated discussion―speaking clearly and out loud―I say something that no one appears to hear. A man repeats it minutes, maybe seconds later, to accolades and group discussion.
2) I am participating in a group interview of a candidate. When he answers questions he looks directly at the men in the room, but never or rarely looks at me―even when I was the one to ask the question. He asks questions of the men only―even questions which I am clearly the most appropriate person to address.
3) I am at a party. The topic of physics (or cosmology, or data science) comes up. A male I have just met proceeds to explain to me a New York Times article he has read on the subject. I mention that I have my PhD and I'm an expert on the topic. Instead of using this as an opportunity to ask me questions and learn from me, he continues talk about what he knows. Bonus points: He turns to my boyfriend―who isn't a physicist or a data scientist―and asks him questions about the topic.
4) I am part of a male-dominated discussion. I keep trying to participate but repeatedly get interrupted and talked-over. The only way to be heard is to interrupt back, talk-over people myself, or call out the behavior and ask people to let me finish. All of these feel overly aggressive and make me uncomfortable, so I end up remaining silent, not contributing to the discussion.